People love talking about other people and people like hearing about other people’s business. Surprisingly, experts agree this behavior is a part of human nature. This fact explains why celebrity gossip magazines are so popular. It’s why strangers will strain to listen to juicy talk about someone they don’t even know. And, it’s also why gossip will never be completely eradicated from the work environment…but, that doesn’t mean human resource (HR) and management professionals should give up on trying to curtail workplace gossip.
Gossip Does More Than Just Waste Time…
While most in HR and management recognize employees gossiping as a time waster that lowers productivity, some negative outcomes may not be as obvious.
A recent study by Tim Hallett, an assistant professor at Indiana University, highlights the impact of gossip in the workplace through observation of staff at a middle school going through leadership change. The year-long study documents how gossip affects management, teamwork and employee retention. Originally published as “Gossip at Work: Unsanctioned Evaluative Talk in Formal School Meetings,” in the Journal of Contemporary Ethnography, Workforce Management reports on Hallet’s study in the article, “Gossip’s Toll on the Workplace.”
Gossip “played and important role in the construction of workplace problems and relational politics,” the study said. Hallett reported gossip undermined management’s ability to lead, it fostered resistance to change, perpetuated unnecessary drama and contributed to higher than normal employee turnover.
So, not only are individuals affected by gossip, but the workplace as a whole suffers. The following represent just a few examples of costs associated with workplace gossip:
Do not participate in gossip. If conversation drifts toward something you feel is leaning toward rumor, redirect the discussion. If this doesn’t work, let the person or group know directly that you will not participate in this type of conversation and excuse yourself from the conversation.
According to “Workplace Gossip,” written by Kit Hennessy, LPC, CEAP, “This will serve several purposes. It will send a message to the gossipers that what they are doing is not acceptable. Others who feel the same way as you do will be more likely to follow suit and not become involved with the gossip, thus taking away the audience. And lastly, you will feel good that you have said ‘no’ to something that wastes time and could cause harm.”
Leaders often make a mistake in pretending not to know about gossip or thinking that by admitting knowledge of the rumors adds credence to them. Instead, managers need to be attune to the grapevine and willing to take action.
One way to do this is by building good relationships with staff. In this way, staff members will be comfortable talking to you as a manager when they hear something that doesn’t seem quite right, or is unquestionably gossip. Keeping communication open is essential in limiting the rumor mill.
“One thing employees may gossip about is what management is or isn’t doing. Rather than allowing speculation to turn into misinformation, consider communicating regularly with your employees about what’s going on in your workplace, at least about things that don’t have to remain confidential for some reason. Open communication may stop some of the rumormongers from making up information. Moreover, the gossipers’ influence will be minimized because everyone – or at least those who need to be – will be “in-the-know.” When employees believe they have sufficient information, they’ll spend less time gossiping and more time working.”
"It’s hard to be humble," says an old country song, "when you’re perfect in every way." Of course, few people actually think they’re perfect in every way. But it can still be pretty hard to be humble, especially if you live in a society that encourages competition and individuality. Yet, even in such a culture, humility remains an important virtue. Learning to be humble is of paramount importance in most spiritual traditions, and humility can help you develop more fully and enjoy richer relationships with others.
Appreciate your talents. Being humble doesn’t mean you can’t feel good about yourself. Self-esteem is not the same as pride. Both come from a recognition of your own talents and qualities, but pride, the kind of pride that leans toward arrogance, is rooted in insecurity about yourself. Think about the abilities you have, and be thankful for them.
Never brag about what you have ~ give to receive.
Seek trusted and wise counsel and obtain accountability partners if you find this to be a weakness in your life. Pride comes before the fall, and prevention is definitely better than cure.
Ask questions when you don’t know, when you know a little, and when you think you know it all.
Be kind and considerate. Help others and tell them you there for them.
Be loving and kind-hearted at all times,you never know when someone might need to reach out to you.
It is fine to talk about yourself a little, but make a conscious effort to ask people about themselves too. It’s also a good idea to listen more when you are being talked/responded to.
Learn to admit when you are wrong and don’t allow your pride to allow you to feel that your actions are justified…
Keep in mind that being humble has many benefits. Humility can help you be more content with your life, and it can also help you endure bad times and improve your relationships with others. It’s also essential to being an effective learner. If you think you know it all, you won’t be open-minded enough to seek out new knowledge. Humility is also, somewhat counter-intuitively, an excellent tool for self-development in general. After all, if you feel superior, you have no incentive to improve. Most of all, being humble allows you to be honest with yourself.
Associate with and help out people, especially the poor, weak, etc.
Before you think about yourself,think about someone else. First think of being a need to someone instead of you needing someone.
Salsa is written in 4/4 timing. For a musician (piano, bass, trumpet player, etc.), the music is best organized with a 4-beat measure. Wearing my guitar player hat, I like to feel salsa music in 4/4 time (count 1 2 3 4 1 2 3 4…) because I’m interested in the harmorny (chord) changes and basslines of the songs. I come from a rock/blues background and I like to hear the chord changes on the 1st beat of every measure. So, Yes I agree with you that I can feel 4/4 timing in salsa. In salsa, it is very common to hear chord changes in the 1st beat of the 4/4 measure (or the 1st and 5th beat of the dance measure).
Rhythm and Dance
Things change, however, when I listen to melody and rhythm. Let me differentiate by defining the following:
Musical measure is 4 beats. Following is two (2) musical measures
|1 2 3 4 |1 2 3 4|
Rhythmic and Dance Measure is 8 beats
|1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 |
Two (2) musical measures equal one (1) dance measure in terms of length of time.
When listening to the general rhythm of the music, one can hear that various elements of the song repeat every 8 beats (i.e. clave, piano montuno, melody hooks, conga tumbao, bass rhythm, trumpet phrases). It is to this general feel of the music to which we really dance since we also repeat our dance movements every 8 beats.
Notice that I have not addressed any style of dancing yet!
One can make the argument that the rhythm repeats every 4 beats in the music, and therefore salsa is in 4/4 timing. This is true for songs that have a very strong 1 3 5 7 beats. While sometimes the conga tumbao (8 AND, 2, 4 AND 6) seems to repeat every 4 beats there are other elements in the music that give a voice to this tumbao rhythm and turn it into an 8 beat feel.
When I first started learning Mambo (salsa on2) and hence listening to the music, I had a lot of trouble finding the difference between the 1st and the 5th beat. But after listening to all the intruments as a whole, I am now able to clearly differentiate the 1st and the 5th beat.
On beats 1 2 3 4 of the dancers measure a tension is created with a bit synchopation. This rhytmic tension is resolved on beats 5 6 7 8. The rhythm of the 1 2 3 4 and the 5 6 7 8 is similar but there a difference between the two. So we agree that there is a difference?
If you were to transcribe songs, which I do for choreographies, you would notice that salsa songs are mostly arranged in blocks of four (4) 8-beat measures. Salsa music treats 8-beat measures just as regular western music treats 4-beat measures.